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Becoming a Dad – 30-Weeks Passed & Baby Registry Advice

September 23, 2009

Hello Readers,

I wanted to update you guys on our progress. We passed the 30-week mark yesterday and are now nine-weeks and six-days away from the arrival of our baby boy. Mom-to-be had her doctor’s visit yesterday and let’s just say our little masterpiece is growing a LOT in there.

According to Babycenter‘s estimate he should be over three pounds now and it feels like it. He’s kicking regularly and I’m starting to guess what bodyparts I’m feeling when he’s not deep down in her pelvis. I know hee’s going to be a strong little boy. I was listening on his mom’s stomach the other night and the kid was kicking me square in the jaw. Good job baby. You sir, are ahead of schedule! 🙂

amazonbabyAnyways, I wanted to write a quick note on the baby registry we recently put together.

For many couples, creating a baby registry seems to be one of the bigger stress points of preparing for the arrival of a new baby and rightfully so. As first-timers, we had no idea what to expect. From researching products online to what you see in the store, it can be a little daunting.

Fear not, I thought. Everyone told us we wouldn’t need so much. Just the essentials they said. We chose Babies-R-Us on the recommendation that they had a robust selection of everything we needed. We picked a Saturday afternoon with the mindset that we’d get it done quickly. No big deal right?

So can you guess what happened? We went into the store and without even noticing it, we spent over TWO HOURS on this thing. For those of you who have never done a baby registry before, let me tell you what it’s like….

They have this little section under a baby registry sign. Target, Babies-R-Us, even places like Burlington Coat Factory… all the stores have them. There’s a desk there, usually in front of some expensive cribs, where couples can sit and get ‘counseling’ on everything new parents might need. After filling out a form and getting recommendations, the store rep gives you a scanner, which looks like a weapon out of Star Wars and then….

…You run amok.

After all the advice, words of wisdom, and self-inflicted discipline we had influencing our mindset, mom-to-be and I just went insane in there. See, it’s hard to control yourself when you’ve got this little scanner in your hand and you’re just going up and down the aisles literally looking at every single item deciding on what you ‘think’ you’ll need. And since the purpose of the registry is scanning items meant to be gifted to you, when you’re undecided about something… you’ll err on the side of scanning it anyway. Personally, I don’t think we did so bad on our initial baby registry but we did spend two hours in there.

If I had to do it over again or had to advise others on the task of putting together a baby registry, I’d give them the following advice.

Dad-to-be’s Tips on Creating a Baby Registry

  • Start early on (probably around the five-month marker) – the earlier you think about putting your list together, the more time you have to modify, edit, and really think about what you need.
  • Do some research prior to making your registry – Especially for the big-ticket items like cribs and strollers, look around online and see which ones are easiest to put together/take apart, what is rated as most safe, etc. before walking in.
  • Find a store that allows you to create and edit your baby registry online – In this day and age, it’s a huge timesaver to be able to create and review this stuff on the go.
  • Leave clothing off the list or don’t focus on it – We did this because we figure that everyone that doesn’t buy gifts off the registry will end up buying clothing. It’s just too easy for people to do. Plus the fact that parents can neglect the fact that babies grow up quickly. I know they throw up, make messes, etc. but you don’t want to stockpile your closet, much less your registry, with clothes you may not need.
  • Determine your motif for your nursery – We haven’t made our nursery yet but we know we want to focus on animals and the natural world. That helped a bunch when deciding between different things. Some stuff just went good together.
  • Don’t forget the essentials– some things you can’t go without: infant carrier/car seat, portable crib, diapers (lots of them), infant tub, baby monitor, bassinet, crib, changing table, stroller.
  • Use a check list – This does help you remember what you need. And most stores provide them for all the categories like bedding, furniture, bath, diaper needs, feeding, etc.
  • And my number one tip– Don’t be afraid to ask for suggestions. Especially from new parents who share the same values as you. Ask them what to put on your baby registry and have them take a look at it after you put it together.

Fortunately for us, mom-to-be did that with our registry and our dear friend Liz, a fellow mom AND mom-to-be in December, our baby registry is now fully optimized after she gave it a thorough review.

Thanks Liz. We couldn’t have done this without you.

Note: If you like to review our finished list and/or help us welcome our little boy into the world, you can find our baby registry here.


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Ari Gold and Networking Advice for the Real World

November 1, 2008

Did anyone catch last week’s episode of Entourage? If you did not yet but intend to, STOP reading. Spoilers below.

Entourage Spoiler Warning

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In this episode Ari Gold wrestles with the decision of whether to take a lucrative job offer to become the head of a major studio. Long story short, he decides NOT to take the offer. But instead of rejecting it outright, he goes to the Board and recommends Dana Gordon, a colleague and personal friend of Ari’s who wanted the job the most anyway. Dana takes the job, offers Ari a nice rub-n-tug and also promises Vince a movie to land him back on top, which is what Ari wanted all along. Perfect. “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours.”

The episode shows some great insight on the almost-nepotistic rule of law in Hollywood.

Now let me offer some insight of my own. For both the movie business AND real life for us common folks, the same saying holds true. “Its not just what you, but who you know.” hence it’s crucially important to know how to network and maintain a good reputation.

Top Five Pieces of Advice for Networking and Reputation Management

1. Follow the Golden Rule – do unto other as you would have done to you. What I mean is that we must pay special attention to the bridges we build and the bridges we burn. Life has a funny way of coming full circle. Even if your decisions don’t bite you directly in the ass immediately, they will still residual impact on your reputation.

2. Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day – But it could potentially be destroyed in one – like natural disaster, demerits on your stature and reputation with others hang on a very tenuous thread. Reputations take a long time of steady recognition and social proofing to build. Yet they can be wrecked by isolated incidents. Hence it’s crucially important to consider the implications of your actions. Step back and weigh everything from a vantage point other than your own as much as possible.

3. You are who your Friends are – My father said this so often in my adolescence that I never forgot it, despite the fact that I didn’t fully comprehend his advice at the time. Looking back, what he meant is that everything in this world is not about you and only you. People will associate who you are based on the circles you are in. Relationships with the right people have a way of pulling your own stature up while others have a way of dragging you down. If you hang out with nothing but drunks, chances are good that you may be one too. If you spend time talking business with friends, chances are that you’re probably entrepreneurial yourself. Or you could all be drunken business owners. I don’t know.

4. Cultivate the Habit of Proper Etiquette – Common courtesies, even with yourself, matter a great deal. These are not acts but habits. Knowing good table manners, how to be appropriate on a golf course, and maintaining consideration matter in this world. It’s synonymous with “having class.” And thus it separates you from the rest of the uncultured masses. For more info, look up the definition of the world “gentleman” in the dictionary.

5. Get Good at Remembering Faces and Names – it only takes one introduction to ‘know’ somebody. And yet if you forget these interactions, the people you once met will go back into the unidentified populous. That is such a waste. To get really good at networking you have to pay attention to this type of stuff. Someone saying “I’m bad with names” is really saying they didn’t take the time and consideration to remember the person. Make it a point to say someone’s name a few times when you first meet then. That will go a long way in not only improving your memory but also your network of friends and business acquaintances.

Ploomy – Check It Out

August 25, 2008

Women, Fights, Humor… these are all things that men hold near and dear to their cold unfeeling hearts. For those topics on the net, we go to a few sacred places. Maxim, Askmen.com,and Spankwire are all frequently bookmarked sites. I’d like to add Ploomy.com to this list as well. If you’ve never been exposed to these guys, I’d like to let you know there is a lot of manducation you could derive from there. Everything from the best types of scotch to top 15 songs to get you pumped up.

In concert with DNC Worldwide, Ploomy has published Mike’s article today entitled, “Mixed Martial Arts: From Freak Show to Mainstream Sport?” Please read and give your feedback by clicking the Ploomy logo below.

How-To: The Infamous Walk of Shame

August 12, 2008

Is it smart to go home with someone the first night and risk sleeping with a serial killer? Does keeping a brand-new toothbrush in your glove compartment reduce the risk of you feeling like a whore the next day? If you leave before he wakes up does the walk out still count as a walk of shame?

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Karri at Eve-101.com has all the answers here. So true. so true.Ladies, this one’s for you…for the nights you wish you could forget, the ones you happily remember, and those that you hope no one ever finds out about.

– Pocket Ninja