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Becoming a Dad – Painful Lesson Learned

July 1, 2009

I was told by a great many people that my last post on Becoming a Dad was very sweet. That was the overall reaction.  But to be fair, I’d like to give a full summation of both extremes in terms of reactions before I share another anecdote with you guys.

Most of the women, especially the more experienced ones (I won’t say “older” for fear of revenge), remarked that it was good for me that I was “finally getting it” when they talked about my desire to be home with mother-to-be. In fact, many close friends told me they were very proud of the fact that I’ve not only embraced this pregnancy with open-arms but also seem to be growing into the role of eventual father.

Meanwhile, on the other end of the spectrum, calls came flooding in from the DNC Ninja support team (mainly Steve aka “Lightweight”) to rescue me from estrogen before my man-card was lost into the torrential abyss for all of eternity.

For those of you that don’t know, the DNC, on whose website this series is housed, was founded on two basic tenets: 1) personal accountability and 2) balance between professional goals and enjoyment of life aka partying. So my friends like Steve know a thing or two about being trying to maintain equilibrium in life. Well last Saturday, I was reminded of how far I still have to go in terms of mastering that balance.

The DNC crew was celebrating for two ninjas this past weekend in Rice Village. For our Houston crew, Jino, our little prodigical son, had his going-away prior to leaving for grad school at Johns Hopkins. Meanwhile, our ninjas in Baytown were also in the village bar-area to celebrate Julian’s birthday.

So there you have it,  a convergence of about twenty people, a roving band of ninjas, if you will, on a “boys night out” and hell bent on getting obliterated. Keep in mind we had none of the wives or girlfriends around to police us except for poor Katie, who tried her hardest. So what the heck happened? Well I won’t get into the details… (this  is a family-friendly site after all) but let me tell you, whatever you are thinking, the evening ended up 100x crazier than most of you responsible adults would expect. I didn’t fare the worst out of all the ninjas but I definitely made a total a$$ out of myself by the time it was all said and done. We were all hurting the next day. I still am. And its the Wednesday after.

My point to this story that I learned the hard way – Mother-to-be wasn’t the type of partner to make me stay home. Again, she encouraged me to go out with the boys. This time, I absolutely did. Balls-to-the-wall, you might say! I didn’t expect the price I ultimately had to pay and I paid it dearly the next day and beyond. Mentally, physically, emotionally, the whole nine yards. And while Megan wasn’t the type to make me stay home, she also impressed upon me that she is the type to let me hang myself without any sympathy from her. Basically, as I whimpered around the house limping in pain and wrecked mentally, all I got was snickering and I-told-you-so’s. I’m never drinking again. (for the 10,000th time but I had to throw that in there.)

I guess this might be a little glimpse into the future of raising a child with rebellious genese like his/her parents. I mean, I acted like a child myself and paid for it dearly. So I learned my own lesson. And the lesson was even more effective than any “nagging” from mother-to-be could possibly have done. I wonder, is that how it truly is? Do you have to let them fall so they learn to pick themselves up or not fall the same way again?

Just a thought…


PS –  We find out the sex of the baby next Tuesday. I am so #&$*% nervous.

10 movies that make you want to hit somebody!

September 5, 2008

Green Street Hooligans – Elijah Wood’s post Lord of the Rings pet project delves into football culture across the pond. His character, unfairly expelled from Harvard, moves to England to stay with his sister. Thanks to his brother-in-law Pete, Wood discovers the passion for the game and all that comes with it. Lots and lots of good-old-fashioned drunken brawling ensues!

300 – The graphic adaptation of the Frank Miller novel, 300 must be the quintessential testosterone movie! Retelling the Spartans’ improbable Battle of Thermopylae, this movie is about pure and unadulterated violence. Thousands amongst thousands of men, magicians, and exotic beasts fight to the death. Ahh Woo!

Gladiator (1992) – If you were thinking about Russell Crowe’s Roman saga, that is NOT the movie we are referring to. This 1992 feature film is the story of 2 teenagers from the mean streets of south side Chicago who are trapped in the gritty, dirty world of underground boxing. One fights to get his father out of danger related to illegal gambling debt. The other fights for the money needed to get out of the ghetto. And in the end, they are pitted against each other for an explosive ending. Easily one of the more underrated movies of our lifetime.

Any Given Sunday – Oliver Stone paints a masterful depiction of life in professional football. What really gets me about this film is Al Pacino’s halftime speech for the biggest game of his teams’ year. Adversity, a willingness to fight against impossible odds, and coming to grips with your own limitations – If you’re ever been a competitor, this movie will undoubtedly fire you you up!

The Program – Much like ‘Any Given Sunday’ this 1992 film is also about the football world, this time delving into the dirty underbelly of college football. From being expected to make the bowl game to drug & alcohol abuse, this movie lets you see what it’s like for these characters to deal with the adversity of college life. Pressure surrounds them. Competition divides them. Glory unites them.

Fight ClubA lonely, remote thirty-something young professional seeks an escape from his ordinary life with the help of an underground fight club. In this club, boxing matches and harmless pranks soon lead to an out-of-control spiral towards oblivion. Based on the novel by Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club takes the audience into a world that finds discomfort with consumerism and changes in the state of masculinity in American culture, and throws violence around as if it is the problem solver.

EquilibriumSet in a very fascist futuristic world, one guy, played by Christian Bale, turns against the establishment and fights the resistence neo-kung-fu style to overturn the regime.

BraveheartIn this period film, you will see lots of blood! Mel Gibson is a Scottish patriot, doesn’t like the authority that rules his land, and takes matters into his own hands as he and his mob of rebels fight back against the English with everything from pitchforks to giant swords!

The Matrix – Who doesn’t know about the Matrix… In this futuristic film an ordinary man gets awakened from his 9-5 life of servitude to the reality that the world is not what he thought it was. From then on, “Neo” learns how to fight all from downloaded information directly into his brain. “I know Jujitsu” …. damn Neo, it took me four years to learn a quarter of what you did in ten minutes.

Flash Point – Quite possibly the best MMA-adapted kung fu movie of ALL time, this movie is about an agent who battles against the powerful forces of a powerful Vietnamese gang. Donnie Yen, who plays the protagonist, says that the final fight sequence was the hardest scene he has ever had to shoot in his lifetime. You have got to see it to believe it. (HINT: It’s on YouTube)